You are intuitive, right?
You always just "know" something, tuned into another level way beyond explanation, it's like a super power!
So why on earth is it that living life successfully whether personally or professionally seems such a challenge?
Until you set your eyes on The 10 Transformational Truths of Using Your In-tuition as “OUT-tuition”...
And recognise yourself - oh jeez! What do you do now?
What does this mean? Is “OUT-tuition” even a word?!
The word "intuition'' is only just starting to be accepted in society.
There's a LONG way to go before the world understands HOW Intuitives tick, but that doesn’t have to hold you back any longer…
Hi, I’m Tiffany and i’m intuitive but I feel like this is a recovery announcement and should say -
“I’m Tiffany, and I am a recovering “OUT’-tuitive!”
OUT-tuition is a term I use to describe why you as an IN-tuitive are struggling with things like boundaries, communication, relationships and esteem.
Today, I’m going to take you through the Ten Symptoms of using your intuition as OUT - tuition and what to do if you resonate.
There is something of a common thread that links me and you together...
That’s childhood, yup if you are an adult then congrats, you had one!
Be it …
Amazing or abusive, blessed or broken comfy or closed, deprived or developmental, emotional or empty, fairytale or f***ed up, generous or grizzly, happy or harmful, illuminating or impaired, jolly or jolting, kingly or killing, loving or leaving, memorable or messy, nurturing or neglectful, open or original, proper or problematic, queenly or quirky, regal or remorseful, stable or straight- laced, terrific or tough, unique or unstable, victorious or violent, welcoming or watchful, my guess is it’s been a mix of it all.
There is something deep inside childhood that makes the child intuitive and you might not have ever clocked what it is. So here it is:
What makes a child intuitive is the need to tune into their parents' needs over their own - because their survival depends on it.
Somewhere along the line the child sees the parent/s needs are something to be subservient to. The child clocks it’s not safe to have needs because the parent/s needs are apparent, and demand to come first because if they don’t then what will happen to their parent/s?
And ultimately themselves?
The child learns to read the mood and situation of the parents second by second, minute by minute, hour by hour, there is never a time out, and the seed is sown - the seed of using in-tuition as out- tuition, just like the heart and the lungs, it becomes the pulse of survival.
Now there’s always a degree of this happening in childhood, but the more challenging the childhood the more “intuitive” the child has to get.
But having a healthy intuition is about tuning into yourself, not others - and that’s what I mean when I speak of “out-tuition”.
Out-tuition is when you tune out of your own needs because survival means you have to tune out of you and into someone else’s.
Over time the intuitive child realises they are different, and this difference is either seen as a gift or a curse - and it’s both.
Being intuitive is a sign of trauma (blessed are the cracked because they let the light in) and it’s a spiritual gift - it’s an initiation that the child has to go through on their own, but they are used to not being able to be seen, heard or understood, so that’s “okay”. It’s not okay though.
It sets the seeds for many issues in life and at the root of it all is dependency.
It doesn’t look like dependency, because a typical intuitive is a well trained “needless, wantless anti dependent”.
After all we just spoke about how this is something the child has to go through by themselves. However the bottom line for a child is that they can’t survive on their own, so even though they are on their own with their situation, their survival depends on dependency.
At some point the intuitive understands that their curse is also a “gift”, either because people start to tell them “Wow! How did you know that?!” or “you are weird!” (weird means wired to fate btw) or they see it for themselves, that they are “different” , somewhat weird and “wonder - fool”.
So they decide to identify with and develop this “gift” and that’s when all hell breaks loose, because it isn’t “in-tuition” (tuition - within) that’s strengthening but “out -tuition” be it through the practice of psychic readings, or just consciously capitalising on the ability to read others.
By doing this tuning out of themselves is amped up, exasperating the disconnect with oneself, which is the most important thing on the planet, for all of us - and especially for an intuitive.
The result? A life full of drama.
TRANSFORMATIONAL TRUTH OF SYMPTOM 1: OVER EMOTIONAL MISUNDERSTANDINGS:
A wise woman wishes to be no one's enemy; a wise woman refuses to be anyone's victim - Maya Angelou
As an intuitive you’ll pride yourself on values such as empathy and compassion (even if others judge you to be cold sometimes - see symptom 8 ).
Yet that doesn’t always equate to having authentic, balanced successful relationships. So why is it that being so tuned into another isn’t an automatic recipe for successful relationships?
Once upon a time my life was full of drama, I did nothing but be a walking beacon for it.
I felt like a good person who was attracting people that would just let me down all the time, and I couldn’t work out why.
Boundaries are a two way thing:
- 1. You need your own internal boundaries to stop putting your stuff onto others.
- 2. You need external boundaries to stop others putting their stuff on you.
The intuitive has neither.
So you have to grow some Bohakas (boundaries), not easy for the child who hasn’t had any. The very nature of an intuitive is to transgress boundaries.
If you had boundaries you’d have been protected from picking up on other people’s stuff.
If you don’t have any boundaries, you attract anything and everything.
It’s time to get conscious about who you are, what you stand for, and allow that to be your guiding light of navigation, this light will fill you up from the inside and no longer will “nature abhor a vacuum” be something to concern yourself with.
So how do you start?
You start with a list of what’s important to you, if you have no idea don’t worry just choose any 10 things to make a start.
If you’d like more help with knowing your values there is exercise in my workbook that you get free when embarking on my upcoming 10 day course - the first step is to register your interest here.
Quite often we think we have a value when actually we have a “conditioned” value.
A conditioned value is something society (parents, friends, family, bosses etc…) tells us we should value. But operating from that won't make you happy if it's not true for you, this is a big problem for an intuitive.
This values exercise helps you to see the difference between your true values and conditioned ones drummed into you by society.
Incredibly important for an intuitive that easily takes on board other people's thoughts and feelings.
Taking it area by area will give you razor sharp clarity on how to tune into the things that matter in your life.
My husband and I did this when we were going through “the terrifying time” in our marriage, even the counsellors were telling us to split up due to “irreconcilable differences”.
Luckily I had done so much awareness work around how people can only come from their own experiences that I questioned them on it, saw a clear case of projection and we decided the irreconcilable differences were with them and took our power back.
We knew we wanted to work on ourselves and our marriage and trusted we had the knowledge to do so.
I remembered I had the values exercise in my toolkit, so we did it and we saw the irreconcilable differences they spoke of ( the ones we were already all too well aware of but didn’t know what to do to solve it), however when we did the exercise above and it all became crystal clear.
His top value was compassion and bottom one was honesty - he would choose compassion over a painful truth any day.
Where as my top value was honesty and my bottom one compassion! Sounds harsh right?
But when your daily survival instinct has been honed by the need to be a psychic detective and read between the lines you just want someone to be straight up with you and the last thing you want is to feel compassion because you are already soaked up to the eyeballs with other people’s stuff.
That’s why I have chosen the word “intuitive” over what the mainstream label “empaths”, it’s basically one and the same, but some empaths are judged as un-empathic when really it’s the opposite, shutting down is a coping mechanism.
Just like introverts can be judged as extroverts - when really they are introverts who have learnt to tune out of themselves and be someone else for someone else (OUT- Tuition).
My coping mechanism was being triggered left, right and centre but doing this exercise got us to the bottom of the problem. I didn’t want to shut down my compassionate heart. I didn’t want to spend my life exposing liars, poking, prodding and proving others wrong on a relentless mission for the truth.
I didn’t want my sanity to be in the hands of someone who chose to be honest with me or not.
I wanted to be in charge of my own heart and mind, and compassion to be my top value.
Result: My marriage doesn’t have irreconcilable differences any more.
Now, it consists of a man who consciously works on his honesty and a woman who works on allowing her compassion, not because we are growing out of integrity with ourselves, but we are growing into it. Making the best of ourselves and each other.
And that’s attraction, not irreconcilable differences.
To summarise the 3 core Issues are:
- 1.Having no boundaries
- 2.Not knowing your own and others values
- 3.Unhealed inner child.
Therefore the work is to:
- 1. Get some boundaries
- 2. Get to know your values (and others)
- 3. Heal your inner child.
“Don't take anything personally because by taking things personally you set yourself up to suffer for nothing.” ― Miguel Ruiz
Maybe you have seen it when a friend is distraught over something another person has done and you can see that it actually had nothing to do with them?
How you wished you could make them see through your eyes because the pain would diminish in an instant?
When someone stumbles across your core wound it feels personal, but it’s only ever their story, and never anything to do with us.
Once upon a time in my closed facebook group we had a lady from another country who loved to dance so much she would post youtube song videos in the comments on people’s posts.
One day she happened to post one of an overweight lady dancing at a bus stop - it had gone viral in England where this lady was made to be a laughing stock.
The English lady whose post she stuck it on had a weight problem.
I didn’t even know there was an issue until weeks later when I had contact with the lady on the receiving end who was convinced it was personal.It was only through asking her logical questions that she could finally see it wasn’t - after all this lady didn’t even know what she looked like.
When someone presses your buttons it feels personal because they are jabbing at your core wound. But they don't know your story - only theirs!
Next time this happens how would it feel to be able to stay conscious? What would that mean for your peace, healing, relationships and your life?
What if I said to you I guarantee you it’s the same for whatever has upset you in the past or present?
Would you get it the same way? A way where you understand it SO completely the pain diminishes?
How transformational could that be for you?
It takes being in the right place with the right people, not your friends that will prop up your ego by slating the other person.
Are you ready to do the work but in a fun, fast 10 day kinda way?
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TRANSFORMATIONAL TRUTH OF SYMPTOM 3: STRUGGLE TO KNOW YOUR OWN REALITY:
Insanity Is Doing the Same Thing Over and Over Again and Expecting Different Results - Albert Einstein
When using your IN-tuition as OUT -tuition you tune into others and out of yourself, so is it any wonder that you struggle with knowing your own reality?
If you don’t know your own reality then how can you function?
It’s like booking a holiday in France and getting on a plane to Spain - again and again, without being able to work out why you ended up there!
It’s like being that little fly banging its head on the window repeatedly when you can see where the freedom is. If only it changed it’s point of view or reference - but it’s WAY too confused by the illusion of the glass.
Driven by madness it tries again and again, sometimes by sheer luck it gets through (but not without a lot of pain) sometimes it means the complete demise.
What if you could navigate life with the ability to know your own reality?
An OUT-tuition is not your reality, so it feels wrong, like an unsettling ungroundedness that causes fear and anxiety.
Intuition never feels like this because it’s a gift from the universe, your higher self, or just yourself.
After all you and the universe are one that's why it sounds like youniverse!)l etting you know you are being looked after.
Intuition is the information you need to make the right decision. It gives you strength, a clarity, knowingness, and energy like inspiration and invigoration, but never anxiety.
So what about those times you feel like something bad is going to happen and it does? You didn’t listen to your intuition that told you what to do.
It’s not your intuition that caused the bad thing to happen, it was your lack of ability to listen to it, which will be because of OUT-tuition such as people pleasing, conditioning etc
TWO EXAMPLES SPRING TO MIND:
One when I was on a hectic dance floor and I suddenly knew a big guy was about to land on my bare foot. Instead of trusting it and moving quickly to another place on the dance floor I dithered about whether it was fear or intuition and BAM! He landed on my foot!
The biggest ouch moment though was the lottery one, and if you have read my second book The Transformational Truth of YOU! You’ll know all about it but in a nutshell yes once upon a time I got the lotto numbers!
I walked into a shop with no intention of doing the lotto, laid eyes on the desk and BOOM! There were the numbers in my head. All six.
Again I doubted, ended up splitting the lines and winning two tenners rather than 4.5 million!
What stopped me that time was not slowing down to feel into what was going on inside.
So how do you know when to slow down and when to speed up?
Well, If you are asking yourself do I need to speed up or slow down you are asking the wrong question!
The right question is …
WHAT WOULD SELF WORTH DO?
If I had asked myself ‘what would self worth do?’ when I got the intuition to move away from the big guy on the dance floor I wouldn’t have been caught up with the wrong question then “is this intuition or fear?” Self worth would have just moved.
If I had asked myself ‘what would self worth do?’ when I got the lotto numbers I wouldn’t have been caught up with the wrong question then “is this for real!?” Self worth would have just put six numbers on one line and been 4.5 million pounds better off.
What you focus on grows, focus on:
"WHAT WOULD SELF WORTH DO?"
It takes a lot of consciousness to keep awake and aware of what you are feeling and why.
If you’d like more help with self worth there’s an exercise in my 10 Transformational Truths (& Symptoms) of Using Your Intuition as “OUT-tuition” Workbook that you get free when embarking on my upcoming 10 day group program starting May 25th - the first step is to register your interest here.
TRANSFORMATIONAL TRUTH OF SYMPTOM 4: MAKING DANGEROUS ASSUMPTIONS:
“Assumptions are the termites of relationships” - Henry Winkler
The danger of making assumptions when you are intuitive is rife. Especially because your identity label is "I am intuitive"- you can end up defending that label at the cost of your relationships.
Another reason this is such a dangerous thing to do is that it's so linked to feeling everything personally:If you take something personal you are assuming it's about you!
As an intuitive it's such a natural for you to pick up on someone else's "stuff" and not even realise you have!
How difficult do you think it is to have a relationship with someone who...
Makes assumptions, takes things personally and is always right because they are “intuitive?”
HECK! Let's turn that shidazzle around pronto!
Whatever your role in life, it’s time to turn every statement you make into a question, practice, practice, practice it with everyone you meet, and watch your life turn around.
It doesn’t mean you have to take their answer as gospel, it means you are developing the strength in yourself to open your mind, cast out dangerous confusions and assumptions and foster gorgeous empowering connections with everyone you meet, do you think that new world is worth it?
See, I turned the statement into a question :)
The key to do that is to find the courage to ask and be open enough to listen - and also not feel pulled into the other's story or your own!
Sounds a fine balance to strike? You'd be right! But don't panic!
In the self-care playsheets of your workbook you will learn a quick easy and simple way of diffusing drama! Get it free when you join my upcoming 10 day course - the first step is to register your interest here (you'll get a free ebook and videoclass in the meantime!)
TRANSFORMATIONAL TRUTH OF SYMPTOM 5: OVER-TRYING, OVER-DOING, AND OVERWHELM:
“When my heart is overwhelmed, lead me to the rock that is higher than I.” - Psalm 61:2
At some point this is followed by a breakdown of being able to work anything at all which feeds into the not good enough vicious cycle of failure.
Of course this is not coming from intuition, it comes from OUT-tuition, the core wound of OUT-tuition is not feeling worthy of the basic right to exist.
Ouch! That sounds harsh, but i’m getting to the core wound here.
You might say that it’s not that at all, that what it is really is that when you are intuitive you can’t prove it, there’s nothing tangible to hang your hat on so to speak, and that’s true, so then why do you feel the need to keep needing to prove it?
What if you felt good enough in your own self and worth? Would you be acting the same way?
What if next time you go into over-trying you apply the question “what would self worth do right now?”
How do you think it might change for you?
In my signature program The Transformational Truth of Tarot we practice The Four Agreements word for word, except for the fourth agreement:
“Always do your best” for this one I have added the word “gentle” between the word “your” and “best” so it reads:
“Always do your gentle best”
I saw the need to modify this agreement because without the word gentle this symptom was being aggravated rather than healed.
It’s amazing the power of a single word!
I can feel the palpable sigh of relief from the group whenever it's brought into play - it's not meant in a way of getting off the hook - which is why the word "best" is still in there, but the word "gentle" is a well needed reminder to not beat oneself up.
Remember the CORE wound of the intuitive that uses their Intuition as OUT-tuition is that they don’t feel safe, they develop their Intuition to tune out of their needs and into others because they feel their very survival depends on it, and this happens very early on, within the first five fundamental formative years.
That is one deeply ingrained message of not feeling worthy enough to exist. So from that moment on you are always trying to do the impossible.
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TRANSFORMATIONAL TRUTH OF SYMPTOM 6: NOT KNOWING (OR MIXING UP) YOUR NEEDS AND WANTS.
“If you don't know what you want, you'll never find it. If you don't know what you deserve, you'll always settle for less. You will wander aimlessly, uncomfortably numb in your comfort zone, wondering how life has ended up here .Life starts now, live, love, laugh and let your light shine!” ― Rob Liano
So you now understand that an intuitive is trained by their immediate environment from a very early age to be an OUT-tuitive.
OUT-tuition arises from sacrificing their own needs and wants to be tuned into their caregivers. But survival as an adult depends on knowing what you need and want and not getting the two mixed up. As an intuitive it’s a constant work in progress.
Last year I was at a music festival for the day, my family had been there for the weekend and we planned to leave that night because we lived less than an hour away.
About midnight I suddenly realised just how tired I was, I mean dog tired. Like I should have realised I was that tired hours earlier. My family were having a good time, but I needed to say we need to go, and now.
Which happened without a fuss (because of this work) but…
Luckily the family was in the van and I was in my car alone because I fell asleep at the wheel.
If it wasn’t for the car behind me flashing and beeping I would have ended up in the wall of a bridge on the motorway. What a wake up call.
I knew my tendency to be so tuned into everyone else's needs and how hard I needed to work to be aware of it, but still my needs were only making themselves known to me when it was too late (see next symptom).
Here’s some things you can do to make sure you are tuning into your needs and wants and making sure you meet them:
Journaling - as soon as you wake up, reach for your pen (instead of the phone!)
Space - stay awake to the need to give yourself regular space, or by midday you could be caught up in everyone else's needs that you may as well have not taken the time to journal. Set your alarm to give yourself regular time out, before the alarm sets you!
That anxious person just triggered your not good enough wound.
That service provider just triggered the not seen, heard, or got story.
That dramatic warrioress, angry or victim friend just triggered the parts you don’t like about yourself.
Boundaries - a lot of intuitives struggle with this I know, we like to flow in the moment! But! Do you realise how much you struggle without them? Get thee a daily timetable in place, know your values, don't wander from them and make sure your space and downtime doesn't get downtrodden on.
Find 10 journaling self-care playsheets in the workbook, with 10 days of my help alongside and see how much clearer you feel.
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TRANSFORMATIONAL TRUTH OF SYMPTOM 7: NOT BEING ABLE TO EXPRESS YOURSELF UNTIL IT'S TOO LATE.
“If you have the words, there's always a chance that you'll find the way.”― Seamus Heaney
It’s really hard to express yourself if you don’t know what you need or want isn’t it?
It comes out confused and if you're confused you can bet your bottom dollar the people in relationship to you will be too.
Not knowing your needs and wants makes for problematic relationships because you have a problematic relationship with yourself.
Before you know it you are with your beloved and something they say triggers a meltdown in you from nowhere. You feel engulfed by utter frustration, rage and despair.
Whatever happened reinforced a glaring inability for you to get what you need or want. The thing is you didn’t even know you needed or wanted it until now! And now, not only is it too late, but your whole manner means you’ve made it even MORE impossible.
In the last symptom I told you about how I didn’t express to my family that we needed to leave a festival in time because I was tired and needed to drive, AND nd how that manifested as me falling asleep at the wheel.
This happened because I wasn't tuned into my needs enough to know what I needed and therefore couldn’t express it until it was too late.
However, this was still an improvement!
In the past there would have been four issues:
Knowing - what I needed in the first place.
Suppressing - it due to unworthiness.
Hysteria - from the need making itself known in a desperate and overdramatic way because it hadn't been met or recognised for so long
Block - the need would now be blocked even further from getting met because of the hysteria making people wary, on edge and labelling me "mad" "dramatic" "unstable" "angry" oh my! What a self fulfilling prophecy!
At least now the only issue left is the first one,
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TRANSFORMATIONAL TRUTH OF SYMPTOM 8: BOUNCING FROM NO BOUNDARIES TO BIG BARRIERS:
“I am less sweet of a person now, but I am more loving.”– Brené Brown
When healthy, functioning aligned boundaries are in place you will feel safe, supported, nurtured and looked out for.
If anyone struggles with boundaries themselves but tries to put them on you, you end up feeling controlled rather than protected.
As an intuitive (or should I say OUT-tuitive) your very nature means you transgress boundaries. AND so it's imperative to understand the consequences and how to manage them.
There is nothing worse than that psychic medium that starts reading you without your permission is there? You feel violated, right?
Or that coach or well- meaning friend that assumes you want their help?
Being boundaryless actually erodes connection rather than fosters it.
Permission to pass through a boundary is key.
Just like you need a key to a door or you are breaking and entering. You just wouldn't do it would you? Unless you are a burglar!In which case you'd have boundaries enforced upon you, but if you are an intuitive (OUT-tuitive) you won't have such a saving "grace" as prison!
Transgressing a boundary in the non-physical world is way more subtle and subjective than having a fence in front of you and retribution is far more karmic.
I finally understood boundaries when I came across Dr Pia Mellody’s work. I loved the way she explained it:
“There are two types of people in this world, a tight arse and a shit arse, which one are you?”
- A tight arse won’t let emotions in or out.
-A shit arse lets everyone’s emotions in and explodes their emotions all over others.
Oh my! What a revolutionary moment - I was a total shit arse!
I don’t know about you but any doctor who can explain things with such terminology wins my respect!
She went on to say that boundaries are a DUAL thing. We have two sets.
An internal set and an external set.
-The internal one conducts our own behaviour and makes sure we don’t offend other people's boundaries.
-The external one is there to protect us from other people invading ourselves.
Oh my, for the first time in my life I understood why people reacted to me like they did when all I thought I was doing was being open for connection.
The “shame shit storm” that followed this instant revelation was huge, but now, whenever I transcend these boundaries I know it now, it just feels wrong.
Learn a way to highlight whether you’ve crossed a boundary (your own or another's) and if so how to rectify it straight away, practice doing so, and address how to stop swinging between being boundaryless and barriered up - by asking here for the privately held space to do so here.
TRANSFORMATIONAL TRUTH OF SYMPTOM 9: FEELING LIKE YOU DON'T BELONG ANYWHERE:
Belonging doesn’t require us to change who we are; it requires us to be who we are. - Brene Brown
So let's face it!
If you are being a shit arse or a tight arse no-one will be willing or able to get close to you so where in that oscillating dynamic are you going to feel like you belong?
Both extremes block you from being able to receive, a core wound directly related to worth and belonging.
If you struggle with boundaries then you can't receive what your heart needs or wants - if that can’t happen then how will you feel like you belong? Anywhere?
Social situations, family gatherings, networking, interviews. presentations, heck even chatting to the neighbours on the street!
Encountering anyone or anything “normal” becomes a massive thing.
Embedding the "no-one understands me" and “I don’t belong” story .
And the longer this goes on for the more of a self perpetuating it becomes.
The truth is you do belong, but telling yourself that and “knowing” that is a whole different story. Particularly when the world presents a daily challenge for you to live authenticity because “they don’t understand”.
But they aren't the ones that need to understand. It's you that needs to understand that you belong and act from that deep knowing and understanding of that fundamental truth.
“I belong. ” Can you say that? “I don’t belong” was the story of my life.
My “I don’t belong” story was exactly that, a story. A self perpetuating story.
One of my colleagues told me that on a call about a year before.
She said she’d seen my gifts shine brightly for all to see in the group we met in, but the group couldn’t connect with me because of the “I don’t belong” story I exude.
My downfall wasn't the economy, what I did for a living, my poverty background or anything else, it was my “I don’t belong” story that I told myself day after day.
It struck me like a slap across the face but a well needed one.
It was 2018 I was trying to save my business after two years of hell with it.
And no-one has business problems right? They have life problems that affect their business. Now I know I was a “recovering out-tuitive”
2019 was the year of undoing my “I don’t belong story” and I made huge improvement by just choosing to replace the tape playing in my head.
To be honest it still sneaks up on me when I find myself feeling awkward in social situations, but now when the “I don’t belong”tape starts playing, I become awake to it, eject it, and replace it with:
“What if everyone feels the same here? Then is it true I don’t belong?”
“What if I let what I am feeling be the compassionate unspoken understanding between myself and another?
What could be possible then?”
In the workbook we have the “I don’t belong story buster!” and in the group we practice it together, to take you from shelf development to self development - get with the program!
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TRANSFORMATIONAL TRUTH OF SYMPTOM 10: THE STRUGGLE TO OBTAIN HEALTHY SELF ESTEEM.
“And then I learned the spiritual journey had nothing to do with being nice. It had to do with being real and authentic. Having boundaries. Honouring and respecting my space first, others second. And in this space of self-care, being nice just happened, it flowed… not motivated by fear, but by love.” - Michele Olak
As long as you are always trying to obtain healthy self esteem you never will.
Healthy self esteem isn’t something you get from the outside. That’s why it’s called self esteem. Anything you try to get such as approval from others, is “other -esteem”.
When part of our body breaks the natural reflex is for another part of the body to over compensate, resulting in complex issues. That’s what happens with “other- esteem”. The self esteem "breaks", and it’s second nature to over compensate.
With intuitives in particular “other esteem” is sought through relationships.
You got trained to get your “self esteem” from others, but that’s not self esteem, and it's the very reason your self esteem has suffered.
Self esteem is like a light switch, it’s either on, or off. You are either coming from it or not.
It’s so empowering to know we don’t need to do years of work, if we can support ourselves enough to keep the consciousness to check whether our self esteem is switched on or not before we make a decision, by asking a single question.
“What would self worth do?’
Would it register below?
No more painful misunderstandings.
No more overgiving and under receiving.
No more dramatic disagreements.
No more emotional exhaustion.
No more costly ongoing therapy.
WHY WORK WITH ME AND WHY NOW?
If you are like most intuitives you have a very powerful connection to source, but it’s not converting to authentic aligned success.
Let's be honest, if you could do this from your connection to source alone, wouldn’t you have done it by now?
Now I am inviting you to get the same results from years of emotionally exhausting therapy in 10 days! Saving you masses of time and money!
Here’s why I am 100 percent confident of my ability to give you this shortcut:
“I healed more in a few weeks working with Tiffany
than I ever did in 10 years of therapy”
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